Saturday, July 30, 2011
Things have changed. I've seen how even more people live. I've seen how people live in other countries and in other states and regions in this country. I've seen how people take care of each other. I've seen accountability processes. I've felt accepted and taken care of in places like Minneapolis, after having been there for a couple of weeks, in ways that I've never felt in the Bay. I even took a much needed break from "movement work" (ie. nonprofit work) and from the Bay last year. I came back excited to see who might have missed me. A few people did. A few people seemed to, until I needed something. I thought I might have been able to land a job by now, seeing as how, oh, um, I don't know, I was a co-founding staff member of the last organization I worked for and helped build it from the ground up. I thought I might have some people checking on me, calling to see how things are going, or just to see if I want to hang out. There have definitely been a few people, yeah. And I don't want to downplay my immense appreciation for them. But mostly I am just feeling like if I went away, not many people would notice.
There's so much stuff here. So much stimuli. There are so many people. So many transient people, often unwilling to commit energy & resources to building relationships, because they're probably moving to New York in two months. There is so much competition. People want to prove that they are smarter than you, or more radical, or more well-known, or more talented, or more business-savvy. I am so not feeling competitive right now. I just want to have some friends on this journey. I want to have a decent job that actually feels like it causes more good than harm and have a potluck every once in a while. I want to go dancing with a group of people, not go dancing alone and run into eight people I know well enough to say hello to but don't really know anything about. I want to hang out with groups of people who don't just want to borrow my truck when they need to move, but want to ask me how I'm doing and actually listen to the answer. And I don't want to feel like there is this whole group of people, this whole scene (or many scenes, really) that are more ______ than I am. I don't care. I just want to be liked and to have people notice that I like them. While we're at it, I would really love it if all those people who are my friends on facebook wouldn't act like they don't remember who I am when we run into each other. What is it with that? Hello, I see you "like"ing my shit. Don't act like we didn't talk about In Living Color for like 20 minutes on that couch that one time.
I'm seriously so done with the popularity contest that is the Bay. If this doesn't change for me soon (and yes, I am actively working to make it change on multiple levels, from self/dealing with my own shit -> one-on-one interactions/remembering that people could be dealing with shit I don't know anything about -> getting out into my community -> whatever else you could think of, I'm pretty sure I've at least heard about it or thought about it by now), I'm probably going to run away. I don't really want to, but I need a community, and I don't have one. I don't want to be so invisible. And I'm really tired of trying so many things within the same context. Maybe it's the context that needs to change?